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Don't Tell Anyone I Hired a Sleep Coach

Don't Tell Anyone I Hired a Sleep Coach

"My friends would judge me if they knew.”

"I'm embarrassed that I had to ask for help."

"I'm afraid people will think I'm a bad mom."

What do these statements have in common?

They're all phrases I've heard from sleep coaching clients. And they are all surrounded in fear of judgment.

Most people who have chosen to sleep train their baby (regardless of the method they chose) will tell you how it saved their sanity, but they may also share that the process can be a little (or a lot) nerve wrecking. From shame surrounding their need for help, to a fear of being judged, to being unsure if it will work; parents who choose to sleep train, often have to overcome a few hurdles of their own. 

We all know that parenting is hard. No one tells you just how difficult it can be, especially when you're sleep-deprived, trying to keep it all together, and doing your best to be the perfect parent. But here's the thing: no one is perfect, and asking for help doesn't make you any less of a good parent. In fact, it shows strength, wisdom, and the desire to do what's best for both you and your baby.

When it comes to sleep training, it’s not simply about getting your baby to sleep through the night… although, that’s often a primary goal… it's about reclaiming your peace of mind, restoring your energy, and giving yourself the space to be a better, more present parent. Yet, despite all the benefits, there's still a huge stigma surrounding sleep training.

Why? Because there’s this belief that asking for help means you’ve failed. But that couldn’t be further from the truth.

Why is it ok to shame sleep training?

It never fails... 

We post about sleep training on social media and the questions or accusations come pouring in. 

"Don't you know that babies are biologically designed to wake during the night?"
"A parent shouldn't ignore their baby."
"Why have a baby anyway if you can't handle the sleep deprivation."

My goodness you would have thought we had specifically promoted starving a child, ignoring a child, or putting your needs as a parent before your child. But we didn't mention any of those things. 

So why the shame? Why the judgmental comments? Why all the questions?

3 Sleep Training Myths Debunked

So. You're tired and considering getting some help getting your baby to sleep... but you have some hesitations. I get it. There are a lot of beliefs surrounding sleep training your baby, some of which sound pretty scary. 

My intention for sharing the following information is not to "talk you into" sleep training your baby. If what you're doing is working for you and your family, then sleep training may not be for you. But if you're feeling depleted, worn down, at your limit or if your baby's sleep is a constant source of stress, I want you to have some more information to make a confident decision for your family.

Sleep Trainer or Sleep Consultant... which one is right for me?

Sleep Coaching, Sleep Training, Sleep Consulting... so many terms that essentially all mean the same thing, right?

Not always.

After extensive research and trainings to learn about the science of infant sleep, I've come to realize that while the terms may be intermixed, they don't always describe the same service. And because I believe in full transparency, I want to share a bit more about the differences in approach and what makes our in-home program so unique.