As your due date nears, the reality of impending parenthood can be both exciting and overwhelming. You may be getting nervous or have anxiety around when you’ll go into labor. You may be stressing about getting the nursery ready or finalizing details for your maternity leave. That’s why planning and enjoying a big night out can provide a special opportunity to unwind, connect, and relish your partner’s company before your baby’s arrival takes center stage. I always encourage clients to schedule a “no holds barred” date night around 37 or 38 weeks - it’s a chance to take a deep breath, enjoy some quality time together, and remind yourselves why you’re a great team. Orange County offers an array of high-end, memorable spots to make this final pre-baby date night one for the books.
Hit Up the Best Restaurants
The Hobbit - If you’re craving an extravagant dining experience, The Hobbit Restaurant in Orange delivers with its multi-course meals and refined ambiance. It’s an elegant escape where you can indulge in top-tier cuisine and forget about the hustle of preparing for baby. Note, there is a dress code and they can book up months in advance (especially around the holidays), so plan ahead!
The Ranch - When you want to go all out, The Ranch in Anaheim is where to do it. With its premium steaks and rich seafood, it’s the perfect spot for a lavish night. The sophisticated vibe and exceptional service make it ideal for a special occasion. After dinner, enjoy the lively atmosphere at The Ranch Saloon with its vibrant live music and dancing, if you’re up for it!
Vaca- Located in Costa Mesa, Vaca is another stellar choice. This upscale Spanish restaurant offers a vibrant atmosphere and a menu full of mouthwatering dishes like tapas, paella, and expertly crafted cocktails - they’ll even make you a mocktail! Enjoy an elegant dining experience with a lively ambiance that’s perfect for a special evening out.
Selanne’s - For a refined and memorable date night before your baby arrives, Selanne Steak Tavern in Laguna Beach is a fantastic choice. This elegant steakhouse offers a sophisticated setting with a menu featuring top-quality steaks, fresh seafood, and a curated wine list. Check with your care provider, but if it were me I’d definitely indulge in a glass! Enjoy a luxurious dining experience with impeccable service in a charming atmosphere.
Five Crowns - Want something classic and elegant? Five Crowns in Corona Del Mar is my go-to. The charming, old-world atmosphere is perfect for a sophisticated and relaxing evening out. While they specialize in prime rib, they have a wide-variety of delicious options. Insider tip - splurge on the chocolate souffle!
Make It Memorable with Unique Experiences
Newport Beach Sunset Cruise - For a romantic twist, embark on a sunset cruise from Newport Beach. With a bottle of bubbly (you can request non-alcoholic) and stunning ocean views, it’s a perfect way to relax and enjoy each other’s company.
Duffy Boat Rental - Rent a Duffy boat in Newport Beach for a laid-back evening. Cruise through the picturesque canals, enjoy a picnic, and have a serene time together.
Bowers Museum - Add a cultural touch to your date night with a visit to Bowers Museum in Santa Ana. Explore the exhibits and enjoy a stimulating and enriching experience.
Hipcooks - Take a hands-on approach to your date night with a private cooking class. Places like Hipcooks in Santa Ana offer personalized culinary experiences where you can learn to prepare gourmet dishes together. It’s a fun, interactive way to bond while enjoying a delicious meal that you’ve crafted yourselves.
Pamper Yourselves
Spa Day at The Ritz-Carlton, Laguna Niguel - Before the baby arrives, indulge in a couples' spa treatment at The Ritz-Carlton. Relax with massages and facials in a luxurious setting, allowing yourselves to unwind completely. When calling to reserve, make sure they have a therapist on staff who is qualified to work with pregnancy.
Afternoon Tea at The Montage Laguna Beach - For a more refined experience, opt for afternoon tea at The Montage. Enjoy fine teas, scones, and ocean views in an elegant setting that’s perfect for a relaxing pre-baby outing.
Oxytocin, often referred to as the "love hormone," plays a crucial role in fostering feelings of connection and bonding. During intimate moments and shared experiences, such as a thoughtfully planned date night, oxytocin levels rise, enhancing emotional closeness and relaxation. This hormone not only strengthens your bond but can also positively influence the onset of labor… although it’s not a guarantee.
Keep the oxytocin flowing when you get home by enjoying more intimate time together—whether it’s through foreplay or full-on sex. Both help increase oxytocin and can promote even more feelings of intimacy and relaxation. When it comes to sex at the end of pregnancy, take it slow and communicate with your partner to maintain comfortability. And if you can manage to have intercourse, know that the prostaglandins in sperm can help soften your cervix, even further preparing your body for labor!
Pro- tip from this OC Doula: if you’re past your due date and haven’t scheduled a date night - do it now!
Your last date night before your baby arrives is a special opportunity to celebrate your relationship and create lasting memories. Keep in mind that it might be a while before you get another chance for a carefree, luxurious evening out, so make this one count! This final hurrah is not just about enjoying each other’s company but also about setting the stage for a smooth transition into parenthood. Make it unforgettable and embrace the experience as a meaningful celebration before your new adventure begins.